Originally shared on Medium on June 12, 2018.
(Or, the distance between gratitude and privilege is a complaint.)
From time to time, I annoy myself. Take for instance the thoughts that ran through my head just the other day.
Complains about not having much to do in Daegu. Goes to Seoul, 95% of the time for meetings concerning expanding my business. Fun activity pops up in Seoul on a work day, can’t attend. Fun activity pops up in Daegu, I’m in Seoul already.
This is a First World Problem and I’m having more of these moments than I’d like. Complaining is annoying and too closely borders ungratefulness. Maybe I’m making it too black and white?
By definition, complaining is the action of expressing “grief, pain or discontent.” It is necessary to complain from time to time. It’s a disruption that invokes change. However, complaining about things that are superficial is a reflection of entitlement complex.
We don’t get our undies into a bunch when we are receiving what we think we deserve. It makes zero sense to be angry when our needs and/or wants are being met. (Although it can happen.) No, we’re riled up when anticipated outcomes don’t match our expectations. We are then inclined to complain, identify all associated problems and spiral into petty behavior.
Complaining about things that are superficial is a reflection of entitlement complex.
We have to check ourselves from time to time — our thoughts of entitlement, the inevitability of life doing whatever it chooses to do. Complain if you have to, but be real with yourself in the process. Or, you might become sick of yourself, too.